MV: We’re all sinners, living in a world created by the all mighty, winner. Yeah I know, bad attempt at a rap, #Don’tJudge. On a more serious note, have you ever found out that one of your really good friends has committed a big sin? Although backbiting is eating your dead brothers skin, sometimes (I should say many times) we find out details about another brother or sister, maybe really dear to us, someone who we would never expect anything wrong from (even though we all know we’re all sinners), commit a huge sin. Maybe its a test from Allah (swt), maybe He wants to see our reaction. Regardless of the sin, many times when we realize that someone isn’t as innocent as we thought they were, we lose hope in ourselves, even for the world. We think to ourselves, “What in the world, was he thinking?” Sometimes its extremely painful for us to deal with.
First of all, when this happens the first thing we should do is make excuses! A great and early Muslim once said, “If a friend among your friends errs, make seventy excuses for them. If your hearts are unable to do this, then know that the shortcoming is in your own selves.” (Hamdun al-Qassar) Although you might think that person’s sin is huge, who knows, your own sins might be greater then theirs from how Allah views it. There is an ayyut that says, “Should you become eager to mention another’s faults, recall your own.” (Ar-Rafi) Remember, The Prophet saw said: “No one with the slightest particle of arrogance in his heart will enter paradise.”
Even though arrogance is a huge topic that coexists with judging others or how Sheikh Abdul Nasir Jangda puts it, “A good Muslim minds his/her own beeswax” sometimes in order for us to avoid countless number of sins, we have to see “through the eyes of a sinner.” Don’t get the wrong idea, don’t judge, by looking through the eyes of a sinner I mean, understanding the psychology of a sinner so we know when we, ourselves are sinning because after all, aren’t we all sinners?
Through The Eyes Of A Sinner, or you could say, why people do sins as much as they do. Chill, you will definitively remember some of these:
1. “At least this sin isn’t as big as that sin”
This is probably one of the most common reasons people sin as much. They don’t consider their sin as big as another, or they compare their sin with sins other people commit. Do you drink brother? “Yes”. Do you have a girlfriend brother? “Yes”. Do you eat pork brother? “Ustaghfirullah, that’s Haraaaam!” Although drinking, eating pork and getting close to zinna are examples of big sins, many times we see ourselves do smaller sins, and don’t care, which is deadly! Prophet SAW said, “Beware of minor sins, for they will pile up until they destroy a person.” A sin is a sin, remember you might not take one sin as big as another, but you will treat all sins the same when you remember who your disobeying!
2. They play the “Its not really haraam” game.
A little similar to the first one. They say, “I don’t follow that position, I follow this position.” They’re constantly trying to justify their sins. Hey, wake up, don’t justify your sins! Remember we’ll be accountable for our sins on the day of judgement, what will you say to Allah when you realize that the sin you “assumed” was fine was actually in fact Haraam. So ask yourself, are you sure its fine?
3. They’re not God cautious.
This is definitively one of the most common reasons, even above the above ones. When most people sin, they’re not God cautious. When you watch those images on the computer or we raise our tones at our parents, we don’t think about God much, do we? Right before the sin, we sometimes get a glimpse or voice in our head that says, “I don’t think that’ll be such a good idea…” but unfortunately because of the lack of faith we have, we ignore it and forget God’s watching. If this happens, we should immedietly say, “Audhu Billahi Minashaitanir Rajeem” which means “‘I seek refuge from the accursed Satan’. Another good idea is to stop and think a few steps ahead and think about the consequences.
4. Lack of Education
Even with the huge amount of resources these days, “Sheikh Google” may not always be correct. These days, people keep searching and searching (it might take them to the 10th page) and then they find a source that says that “so and so” is Halal. Which brings me to my next point.
5. “The custom made, halal and haraam”
Yes I’ve seen it happen. I’ve seen so many times where people say, “Having a girlfriend ain’t bad” or “smoking weed ain’t bad”…well…according to who? “Oh well you know, why would that be haraam in Islam.” Yes that’s called lack of education. You might “think” something is fine, but how do you know that its Islamically fine? Islam wasn’t created from how we see it, it was created from someone who knows better for all of us, Allah. Before deciding what’s haraam and halal, we should sit down with someone Islamically knowledgeable (local Imam, alim, etc) and then talk to them about it.
6. They gave up
This is the sad but factual truth. Many people give up after committing a certain amount of sins. After making a few lousy mistakes, there will be a point where it hits them hard and then they finally give up on themselves. An examples could be if someone commits adultery or takes that one sip of beer, its all over for them. They say, “Why will Allah forgive me now, after all that I’ve done?” or “I’m in no position to pray, look what I’ve done.” Never say never! When we repent, Allah will (God-Willingly) forgive us because he’s Al Rahim or the most merciful. No matter how many times you sin, he will forgive you (God-Willingly). Read this important hadith:
“O son of Adam, as long as you call upon Me and put your hope in Me, I have forgiven you for what you have done and I do not mind. O son of Adam, if your sins were to reach the clouds of the sky and then you would seek My forgiveness, I would forgive you. O son of Adam, if you were to come to Me with sins that are close to filling the earth and then you would meet Me without ascribing any partners with Me, I would certainly bring to you forgiveness close to filling it.”
And last but not least…
7. “Oh you know, God will forgive me”
One of my good friends once told me a story about his first experiences in college. He told me that one of the first Muslim friends he made in college said, “Alcohol is halal.” When asked why…. he said, “Its okay, God is all forgiving, its fine.” Talk about epic haraam fail. Remember Allah will (God-Willingly) forgive you when you repent BUT when it comes time for you to commit the sin, don’t think that you can just do the sin and then ask for forgiveness latter. It doesn’t work like that man, you have to be strong enough to stop yourself from doing the sin in the first place.
Prophet Muhammad SAW said: “A believer does not allow himself to be stung twice from one (and the same) hole.” [Bukhari]
We all sin, its true. But we should always repents.
Remember my purpose for writing all of this was so you could think about doing a sin beforehand, not so we judge others. I know its hard to see others sin sometimes, but remember that we all make mistakes, these are some of the most common reasons why. When you “look through a sinners eyes” your actually “seeing through your own eyes” which can help prevent yourself into falling into the same mistakes (insh’Allah). May Allah (swt) forgive us all and make us the best of His believers, Ameen.